As students prepare for college this fall, many do so with unease. The events of October 7 and the rise in antisemitism across the United States have shaken our sense of safety, both as individuals and as a community. Some feel physically unsafe, others are emotionally drained or confused. Many have faced isolation, uncomfortable conversations, or public pressure to respond, in person or online, to complex issues.
Entering new spaces can raise questions; How do we respond to misinformation? How do we stay grounded? How do we make sure we are safe? Here are some tips for students and their families navigating this landscape:
- Be Jewish Proudly
For me as an Israeli, a Jew of Middle Eastern and Eastern European descent, a woman, a professional, and a mother, being proudly who I am has always been the most empowering experience. As a result, I feel it is a strong path to choose when facing challenges. At the same time, there have been moments when I felt fear, and assessed direct confrontation was not necessarily the best path forward. I believe that being compassionate to ourselves in moments of fear, confusion, or dilemma, builds our resilience and allows us to be empowered at other times. One principle in conflict resolution is know yourself and identify your boundaries.
- There’s No One “Right” Response
Each situation is different. Sometimes it’s right to speak up. Other times, walking away may be the right choice that protects your well-being or safety. Avoiding confrontation can reflect awareness and self-care, not necessarily a compromise on values. Be ready to find yourself in uncomfortable situations so that you don’t freeze in surprise when it happens. Then, use your common sense and sense of safety to assess each situation independently.
- Your Values Are Bigger Than One Moment
A single decision doesn’t define your integrity. If in hindsight you find yourself wishing you had responded differently, reflect and learn. That’s how we grow and become more comfortable in difficult moments.
- You are Not a Spokesperson for Israel or All Jews
You are not obligated to explain government policies to justify your safety or identity. Speak up when and how you choose. That’s your right.
- Don’t Give Up on Real-Life Relationships
Many people are unsure how to ask questions or start conversations. Do not rush to cut off real-life friendships. In-person dialogue can lead to deeper understanding and unexpected solidarity.
- Do Give Up on Toxic Online Relationships When Needed
Social media is not built for thoughtful dialogue. It is okay to unfollow or disengage from people who spread hate or misinformation. If someone matters to you, talk in person or share a resource. You do not owe anyone an online debate.
- Build Safe, Supportive Spaces
Whether through a student group, campus organization, or friendship circle, find people who support and understand you. These relationships are a powerful response to fear and division.
Your Campus Hillel branch, Jewish Studies Group, or other groups you can find on campus or close by could offer this kind of support.
- Be Committed to Your Physical Safety
Be situationally aware (join one of our Federation’s Situational Awareness Trainings with Community Security Director Tom Baugher – jfedsrq.org/safesrq), and consider going places or attending events in a group of two or more, especially if you are going to a new place or know there may be Pro-Palestinian or antisemitic demonstrations.
- There Are College Faculty and Staff Required to Help
Professors are ordinary people, too. They may be misinformed and even biased. If you encounter a situation in the classroom that you do not know how to handle, first share it with your parents; then reach out to the relevant offices on campus (the head of your school or programs; Student Life staff; the Diversity Equity and Inclusion office). If you do not know how to navigate this, please reach out to us here at the Jewish Federation of Sarasota-Manatee. Parents and grandparents are invited to reach out and ask for advice as well!
Let’s move forward together with courage, compassion, and community!